Do opposite attracts?
I just realized weeks ago that my boyfriend and I have this kind of relationship and we’ve been together for over a year now. Introvert-extrovert relationships can be astounding and satisfying, but they definitely require communication and compromise. In the long run, this is where you can test your patience and be quizzical about your compatibility. Basically, you’re like yin and yang.
Some people think, how this kind of relationship works if they have different kind of personality traits? It works if both partners work hard and establish their boundaries, it makes easier for them to find the middle ground. Also, know where your partner gets their energy because we need to recharge our brain.
Me, as an introvert, I recharge by spending time alone. I find interacting with lots of people exhausting and draining. I lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. This doesn’t mean I don’t like being around by people, it’s just putting an effort to them drains my energy.
Him, as an extrovert, he gains energy from other people and it drains by being alone. Interaction with other people energizes him. He enjoys spending time with friends. He would much rather talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think.
Here’s how we make it work:
- Lots of communication (this is the #1 of all), we always share our thoughts and feelings for each other. We don’t personally take the negativity we hear from each other. We accept it deeply and truthfully.
- Being clear about each other’s needs
- Respect each other’s space & time
- Accept and appreciate the differences between your temperaments
Those are the important things we do, I don’t need to enumerate them all.
Most of the time I seek solitude which sometimes leads to a fight because there are times that he needs me, but on the other hand, I just want to be quiet and alone for a while. Times like this needs to be conferred, there should be a balance between the two.
So why am I talking about this? It’s simply because i’m amazed how our relationship works and how we manage it!
Different is good and appreciating how your partner differs from you. It’s important to realize how your partner is changing you by simply being part of your life rather than changing by who you are.
Not sure if you’re introvert, extrovert or maybe ambivert? Here, take the test!